Are you emotionally and mentally spent?
Are you emotionally/mentally spent from the happenings at work, from struggling with cravings from the sugars and processed foods or whatever you personally are dealing with?
Why is it so hard to deal with or overcome this “thing”? Maybe you never had the support to build that strong state of mind from childhood to adulthood. Maybe you got involved in a situation or with a person that blinded you into their web of destruction.
Well, no matter what it was or is that got you there, YOU have full control of what happens to you today.
Don’t let that thing or that person cause you to stop taking care of you. Don’t let that thing or that person drag you into a hole that makes you forget who you are or what you can be because you will lose yourself. You will lose yourself in your emotions.
“Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one (in control) of your emotion because the body always follows the emotion.” – Bruce Lee
How many times has your emotion caused you to do something that you know you shouldn’t do? For most of you, it’s food. For some, it’s a substance. For others, it’s an activity that will just get their mind off the BS.
If you eat when you are emotional you are most likely reaching for the food that contains the GMO sweeteners, sodium saturated or trans-fat induced because that is what will release Dopamine. That is the same hormone that is released when ingesting heroin, cocaine and crystal meth. No matter the choice, it’s all at the expense of your health and eventually your life.
You see, the dopamine is just masking the problem, and eating the processed food is only easing the symptom (stress) it’s not a solution to the stress. What is causing the stress is what needs to be addressed.
So, before I go on, let’s talk about the substance abuse that you didn’t know you had or continue to deny you have. (If it makes you feel any better, I have the same addiction)
The abuse of the highly saturated foods we are or have consumed over the years that contain such high levels of GMO sweeteners, sodium or trans-fat, is very well considered a substance like cocaine, heroin or crystal meth.
The poorer your food is nutritionally, the poorer the hormonal balance…. moody, emotional. Combined with an inactive lifestyle and body fat in excess of 20% for men and 30% for women, that can create a moody monster.
This can be corrected by becoming more active but more importantly eating a balanced diet that consists of good carbs, good fats, good proteins and lots of water.
Easier said than done, right?
The foods we eat today are far different from the foods that were consumed 20 years ago and much different than the foods 30+ years ago.
There are more processed foods (low nutrient dense, dry-density or dry energy dense) than ever before and because of that we are consuming less whole foods that have the essential nutrients that is required by our bodies. Fruits & vegetables, good fats and proteins.
We are also not eating regularly but instead we are snacking and/or eating one large meal a day. And in most cases, missing breakfast which is the most important meal of the day. Missing breakfast leads to low blood glucose levels thus leading to fatigue, irritability and mood swings.
We shouldn’t substitute the first meal for these quick breakfast bars, pastries and other sugary foods because it causes a “high” then a serious low forcing your body to increase insulin production, then you’re tired and the mood swings again.
We need complex and fibrosis carbs. Wholegrain cereals, nuts, beans/lentils, fruits and vegetables which are more filling. The sugars in these foods are absorbed slowly thus, less or no mood swings.
The same applies to proteins and good fats. A minimum of 15 to 30% of your total intake should contain some form of protein which ensures that you are getting a good supply of amino acids. Amino acids are good for our skin, muscles, immune system and brain.
Alcohol and caffeine products also play a role in the mood swings because both give the body and brain a high then a serious low.
In summary, the high glycemic, low nutrient dense (processed foods are causing the hormonal imbalance, causing your emotions to be all over the place.
The stress is not going away by eating the before mentioned foods because it’s the food that is causing you to be emotional as a result of the hormonal imbalance caused by the foods.
In other words, you’re not eating emotionally, it’s the other way around. So there is no such thing as an emotional eater.
So, while your emotions are out of control and as long as you continue to engage with the thing or person, your demeanor will become very ugly; it will mirror the activity or person that is or was diminishing you in the first place. You will bite at or be angry at the ones that love & care about you the most for no reason or some made up reason that you will convince yourself is valid.
Your struggles could very well be tied to the current state of your life. So, if you are struggling to lose weight or get in shape, evaluate or re-evaluate the status of your life. Not someone else’s life but your life. So don’t look for things or people to blame or compare. Evaluate and make a plan for YOU to make a change. Not for that thing or person to make a change. Otherwise, you will end up in a vicious cycle of turmoil.
So, how do you beat this, how do you become a winner?
“Winners are those who have the guts to quit early and redirect their energy toward actions that are better aligned with their goals to live their best life”. – Anonymous
It’s important to discontinue activities that steal your time, drain your energy, waste your money or diminish your self-esteem and respect.
It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better.
Each day you get the required amount of sleep, move more, and eat for the body you need (not for the body you have), makes you better than yesterday. And each day will get easier and easier because you get mentally stronger by simply not feeding the craving. So emotionally you are in control & physically you get healthier.
It’s mind over matter in this environment of fast, processed, convenient foods. We all have to eat but we just have to be aware and accepting that this feeling we get from these foods, is not good for our health, mentally & physically. Be mindful of what we are putting in our body versus the mindless eating that we all have seemed to fallen victim to. And when I say mindless, I mean ignoring what you obviously know is not good for you.
We will not be successful at controlling our cravings everyday but each day we do is that much closer to better health.
“It does not matter how slow you go, as long as you do not stop” – Confucious
This quote rings loud in my ear and I in turn I ring it loud in your ear.
Why? Because it never fails, week over week, I hear “Why is it moving so slow?”, “This is not working!”, “I want to lose this weight NOW or I want to be in shape NOW”. Now Now Now!
We all want everything now but want it without putting in the work. You won’t achieve it if you don’t work for it. It’s not worth having if you don’t put in the work.
Once you let go of the past and focus your energies on today, then it won’t be long.
“The secret to change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the future.” – Socrates
You build the future today. Not yesterday – It’s gone; Not tomorrow – it’s not here yet. So, if we don’t focus on today, the future always seems so far away. Of which it is, if you’re not focusing your energy on the habits we are trying to establish… TODAY!
As soon as your able to transition that energy to what needs to be done today in order to see the future, time goes by fast, very fast because at that point you are driven by the changes that are occurring so rapidly. Your attention is on what needs to happen to make it happen. And as it does, you are way too happy to think about the past and before you know it, the future is here, when tomorrow becomes today.
This applies to everything we want for ourselves.
I love what I do and because of that, I apply what I learned yesterday on today, enjoy it, build on it. Then move onward and upward.
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
I’ve learned from yesterday to make today a better day.
Don’t dread the journey by dwelling on the past and anticipating the future. Otherwise, it’s going to drag on and seem like forever and a day.
YOU are the cause; YOU are the solution.